I want to conclude our four episode journey on marriage by talking today about what unconditional love is and looks like. The Bible refers to this kind of love as Agape love.
Agape love is self-giving love that demands something of us. Love that is more concerned with giving than receiving. This love is as rare today as it was in the times of Jesus. But the example of that love is in Jesus and He is the one who will give you the strength, power, and initiative to love that way.
After all… the example of this love is found in Jesus himself who gave himself sacrificially.
- It is the sacrifice of self for the sake of others – even for others who may not care for us, or who may even hate you.
- It is not a feeling but an action – a determined act of will.
- It is the willing, joyful desire to put the welfare of others ahead of yourself.
Here is a brief picture of what that love looks like from 1 Corinthians 13;
Love is patient: seeks the others advancement and doesn’t get frustrated.
Love is not self-seeking: Life is more satisfying living for the other than yourself
Love does not keep a record of wrong: each day rip up the scorecard and don’t let things brew.
Love Bears all things: don’t criticize in public or put each other down. Speak in private and speak the way you would want them to talk to you.
Love Believes all things: give the benefit of the doubt – don’t be suspicious.
Love Hopes all things: refuse to take failure as final.
Love endures all things: don’t give up- keep working away.
This is the love of Christ. When we as couples make pleasing Him our purpose – the rest falls into place.