I was thinking about what makes a marriage work? Likely what influenced my thinking process was the fact that I am attending a wedding today. Yesterday I spoke with a couple whose marriage was ending and today I am witnessing a new beginning.
Everybody loves a love story – Harlequin romances, soap operas and reality TV shows paint the supposed ideal picture. But the best examples of love are found in the scriptures. The first couple –Adam and Eve had to survive through all sorts of things including the murder of one of their boys by his brother. Talk about stress! Then there is the story of Jacob and Rachel. When he first saw Rachel it was as if his heart was lit on fire.
He had to work 7 years as part of the dowry payment plan before he could marry her- and then it says the time flew by as if it were nothing. I suggested that to both my son-in-laws that they should work for me for free for 7 years but that didn’t sit too well with them.
But the greatest example of love is found in what God did for the world. He sent his son Jesus to pay the price for our sins so that we could have a relationship with God.
John 3:16 says; “ For God loved the world so much that he gave his one and only son that whoever believes in him should not perish but have life forever.”
The bible calls this agape love – unconditional love. Love that says; regardless of what you look like in the morning, regardless of how you screw up, regardless of whether you love me the way I was hoping you would love me – I am committed to you. Over the next few days, I will teach three principles to help your marriage go the distance. But it starts with drawing on the example of Christ’s unconditional love for us.
As we keep Jesus in the center then we can be the lovers our partners have always hoped we would be.