Often when I am heading out the door to a meeting or a public speaking event I will say to my wife: “ How do I look?” As a guy what I am looking for is to hear whether my clothes match, that my hair doesn’t look like Dennis the Menace and that for the most part have I got my act together or at least I look like I have !
Perhaps therein lies the issue for us to think about this week. All of us like to look like we have it all together but it would be another thing if my wife were to say; “ Uhmmm the clothing looks fine , but am I detecting some grumpiness, or is there an air of agitation emanating from you or…to be honest Mike – you look and sound mildly resentful!”
Resentfulness is one of those subjects that unless exposed as the ability to tarnish our reputation, impact the way we do life and take away the joy of the moment jabbing you full of misery. Resentfulness is subtle and sneaky – creeping up on you so that before you know it you are wearing it as part of your daily attire.
Here are some tips listed in no specific order. They help me notice when resentfulness has become part of my wardrobe and likely impacting that way people see me.
- When I begin to think that someone got something good that I didn’t think they deserved!
- When I find my impression of someone changing for the worst because I have listened in on some gossip.
- When I compare myself to others who seem to have more than me.
- When I think wrong thoughts about God such as; “ Why does God bless them and not me?
Well the list can go on and on –but I think you get the drift? Perhaps a wise thing tomorrow morning when we all get up and get dressed is to ask our selves; “How are people viewing me and even more importantly how does God see me?” What are the things that I need to ask the Holy Spirit to point out in my wardrobe that need changing so that I can truly look like a son of God?
“Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.” Colossians 3: 12-14 (NIV)